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Funeral Clothes

Just last week I had a conversation with my walking partner about funeral clothes.  We agreed that though we are not inclined to attend such events, there are times when one simply must go. And, since we are both women who prefer casual dress, neither of us owns much that is "nice."  

  My friend, Sandy, a venerable woman of nearly 70 years remarked that she acquired a new pair of "funeral pants" in a lovely shade of brown.  Acquired, but not yet worn, they are ready for her. 

Waunita, of whom I have spoken earlier did pass sometime in the wee small hours of Tuesday morn.  Thus, I am have been trying to come to terms with "funeral attire."  My daughter came down yesterday and spent most of the day.  We went shopping in honor of Waunita, the greatest shopper I have ever known!!  I did buy two pair of capris, and two new shirts.  My daughter bought me a new jacket and a red skirt with sequins on the bottom.  Early birthday presents  :)... 

But, when I got home,  I realized I had not acquired anything to wear to the funeral.  

Faced with the reality of the five extra pounds I have gained, *ugh*, I just have very few clothes that still fit comfortably and haven't been worn in the garden* LOL...

My daughter called me this morning and says, "You know Mom, I don't think I'm going to wear that dress I bought yesterday to the funeral.  I really like the dress, and I don't want to connect it with funerals in my mind."  Knowing her as well as I do, she might just well do that.

Thus, today, without ANY of my children I went to one store, tried on four shirts and bought a purple one to wear with my tight but still breathable dependable linen slacks.  I have this really great pair of bell bottom dress pants that were supposed to be this year's funeral pants, but alas, I flow over them a bit much.

Now I have something to wear that is comfortable.  Much gratitude to the cosmos for providing something comfortable to wear.  I'm quite anxious about attending something this painful, with this many people.  I am feeling my own mortality overmuch methinks.  Time to kick myself in the ass again.. and get those damned pants ironed... 


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Oct. 6th, 2006 05:24 am (UTC)
I'm assuming by "funeral" you are referring to the viewing/wake and not the church service/graveside service......

If it's the viewing, you don't really have to stay a long time, if it's uncomfortable...... people really do understand and it's about passing your condolences along to the family, etc.

On the other hand, if you are close enough to the family to be expected to be there representing the family..... then I guess you better be comfortable clothes-wise, you'll be there a while.

I unfortunately own too many funeral clothes..... as a minister I often have to go to people's viewings and I have to look appropriate...... so depending on the manner in which I am going (as family friend, as spiritual counselor to the bereaved or to the deceased, etc) I may wear my black suit, which is a black skirt and black jacket and either a colored silk blouse or a black shirt with a white collar..... or I have a more relaxed looking black linen cutwork skirt with a matching top.....

When I'm not going as minister, I have a pretty long eggplant colored skirt and a knit top that matches it......

For some reason the one thing I can't bring myself to do is wear slacks to a funeral......

for future reference, those neat hippie broomstick skirts we all like are great for funerals if you get one that has a black or navy blue background for the pattern; they are very comfortable and if you dress the skirt up with heels or other shoes, and a solid color black or navy top, you will look completely appropriate.

just my two cents. in the end, most of the time, they don't remember what you wore, but they WILL remember things like jeans etc. when my mother passed away, some of my cousins came in jeans and turtlenecks and my AUNTS have never forgotten it, 11 years later they are still talking about it.....
Oct. 7th, 2006 08:41 pm (UTC)
Actually just about the only person there with whom I am acquainted was my daughter. I was really there to be her moral support.

And, I wore a lovely white cotton tunic with sparklies on it under my new red jacket, and black pants. Funny I used to wear skirts all the time and have shifted back to slacks..
By funeral I meant the actual service. I didn't do the viewing. AARGH... I do not like looking at the corpse at all.

There were so many people there, I couldn't believe it.. WOW..
Waunita was very well thought of a lot of folks. Took one and half hours..
Yep I wore one of those hippie "broom" skirts to my father's funeral.. with a vintage navy blazer..
Looking back on my post I see that I was using the issue of finding something comfortable to wear as a way to work out my discomfort at having to go at all.

Oct. 11th, 2006 03:10 pm (UTC)
I'm glad you got through it ok......
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